about me
I’m Nathania Lozada Steif. I’m just another mom who is finding her way around one of the most important jobs in the world: raising our future generation. Other than that, I have over a decade of experience working in marketing and content production for tech companies like Google, Trulia, Lumosity, and Ancestry in the SF Bay Area. I’ve also been featured in ScaryMommy and Toast Fried. I love eating my way through all types of cuisine, exercising in my living room almost every morning, traveling to all corners of the world, and snuggling up to a good rom-com.
About the blog
Nathania Lozada Steif with her son.
First off, for all of you “shitty moms” out there, I’ve got some news for you: you’re probably not shitty. You may think being “shitty” means forgetting to change your child’s poopy diaper after a few hours. Or letting your child play Angry Birds the entire time you’re in the restaurant with them. Or putting your baby’s pacifier back in her mouth without cleaning it after it’s been on the floor for ten seconds.
Well, let me tell you, that’s not being shitty. That’s just being normal. That’s being human. And being imperfect.
Let me give you an example. Your child gets a diaper rash after sitting in his own shit for a couple hours. Then, in your frantic effort to find the diaper rash cream, you turn back just in time to see your child eating his own shit. And then in complete panic, you rush over to the diaper wipes only to hear the loud thud of your baby falling to the floor from the changing table because you forgot to buckle him in.
Shiiiiieeeettttt.
That’s a horrific example (that may or may not be based on real-life experiences) -- yet, your child isn’t going to die from any of these things. You're raising babies to become adults. And adults will have to go through shitty situations all of the time. That’s life.
Still, Moms carry a huge burden. Society believes that if we’re not doing the best for our children all of the time (whatever that means), we’re not doing our job well. We put so much guilt on ourselves. So much blame and shame.
And that needs to stop.
On the flip side, there’s this idea of the “supermom.” The one who manages to look amazing, have a great social life, successfully work that full-time job, have a spotless home, and still be present for her child on the regular. Well, let me break some other news to you. That person doesn’t exist, even if she has a village helping her. There’s just not enough hours in the day to make it all possible.
And guess what? That’s totally okay.
There’s the stay-at-home moms that (while people may think she’s not working as hard because all she is doing is “watching the kids”) have to handle the job of parenting 24/7 -- where lunch breaks aren’t always certain, but emotional breakdowns, messy spills, and laundry always are.
There’s the single moms that do all of the above and likely have a full-time job. WTF. Is that even possible? Yes, apparently it is. So much respect.
Then there’s the moms that do have help. They’re badass in their own right, with their own amazing feats to tell.
We’re all just a bunch of normal moms who sometimes do shitty things and sometimes do super things. But none of those “things” defines us entirely. We’re just doing the best we can. And that’s enough.
This blog is a reflection of my journey in normal momhood.
But let’s be real. normalmom.com didn’t have quite the ring to it. So supermomshittymom.com it is.